breaking point

First things first I would like to say THANK YOU, to everyone who has supported me. Your words, your quotes, your books, and inspiring stories truly are so amazing and I will be forever grateful. 


IF YOU'RE SEARCHING FOR THAT ONE PERSON THAT WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE, TAKE A LOOK IN THE MIRROR.


There was something that came from sharing my journey with all of you that I was NOT expecting, at all. Sadly, it was to find out how MANY women are unhappy in their marriages or relationships. Heart breaking to say the least because I've lived it, I've felt it, I know it all too well. Most with kids, many in mentally and some physically abusive relationships.

Fortunately, for me, it was more of "we grew apart" as individuals and after years of trying to come "together". It was our time to each, INDIVIDUALLY find what in life truly set our souls on fire. Being with someone from 17 years old until almost 29, I am a VERY different person now. Your standards for life when your 17 and when you're almost 29 (but feel like you're 45) with two kids and 2 businesses are COMPLETELY different. 

When you're truly happy in your life, it's like you're in a tunnel and all these lit up paths start going off. I am still trying to navigate all of this so I don't want to come off like I "know it all". I don't. But I do know that I made a decision in my life to seek true, pure, genuine happiness with myself for my babies. Sometimes the people we "think" will be part of that journey, are not. You mourn a person or relationship that is still there, but not. Talk about mind f*cking. 

Reaching a breaking point is like climbing up a mountain with no water, no shoes, no support. It's going to be hard and it's going to take a long time. Especially when you have someone saying "here, drink this water". You can essentially hit a pause button to feed the thirst, but when that water is gone you're back to being on the side of a mountain with nothing, so you climb and climb until the next time you get that water break. Slowly but surely you make it to the top. When you're at the top you don't need ANYTHING from anyone because you have conquered something that in those moments of struggle you NEVER thought you could. That's how you reach a breaking point in a marriage or relationship. The water, the thirst is the love you have for your family, your children, the idea of something that is not truly there but during that time you gave in because it was what you needed in that moment.

I hope this is making sense, whether you are still climbing or you have reached the top, you are not ALONE. 

I would say in nearly EVERY single failed marriage or relationship they "tried" to work things out once or twice or maybe even 15 times. Ultimately making it to the top of that mountain and facing their fears to walk away.

Realizing, they are MORE than they ever thought they were or could be.

For years, my babies were what held me there. I couldn't fathom spending a night without my boys. I didn't want another woman or man coming into my children lives. I did not want to miss their first time trying something new. The biggest struggle of them all was "how will this effect them as young adults and in their future relationships?". 

The struggle is REAL.

When you reach that point of breaking in a marriage, those things no longer resinate. You have all the answers even when you don't.

You will NEED GOD. If it were not for my faith, I would not be in the place I am today. I left everything to God, I knew this would be a battle I couldn't fight on my own, mentally and emotionally. I don't have the answers. I can't see the future. But, I do know one thing and that is I am finding MY OWN HAPPINESS, to be a better mom, a better friend, a better daughter, a better sister, and a BETTER ME.

Love Always, 

Christa

PICTURE PERFECT

DON'T JUDGE MY CHOICES IF YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND MY REASONS


What is picture perfect to you?

I've been told for years "You guys are the perfect family!", but why? Because we can all look nice for a photo? Because we can smile for a moment? Because we go to fun places or because we have nice things? 

Our "picture perfect" looking life was far from perfect.  I have always tried to keep it as real as I possible but when I realized that even my own "real" wasn't real, that my vision was a facade, it changed me as a person. When you look reality in the face and don't like what you see, you try to "fix" it. Every time you try to fix it you think of the last time and the time before that and the time before that and the time before that. Then almost 12 years later you realize almost every life decision or purchase was an effort towards "fixing" something that was not fixable it was just not meant to be. 

I thought I was where I was suppose to be. In fact, I guess you can say I was right where I was suppose to be for that chapter of my life and I know God makes no mistakes with his plan. Yes, I know, a lot of you are saying "Divorce is not of God". I get it, I really do and trust me when I say it was a decision that was hard to make, it was a reality that was hard to face. I thought marriage would be one of our "fix it, make everything better" things and here I am less that a year and half later filing for divorce. 

There are so many things as young adults we do not think about when we get into a relationship. Growth, being the biggest factor. What do you want out of life and your future? How do you want to be treated when you're sick? How do you want someone to take care of you after you have just had their baby? How do you want to be valued as a mother? How do you want to be celebrated when you achieve something you have worked so hard for?  I am a give what you get type of person. I wouldn't say it's my best quality but it definitely draws the line in many relationships I have with family, friends, business, etc. I know what I bring to the table and I will not accept anything less than that. 

You realize unhappiness when you find happiness, if that makes any sense at all. My babies have always been true happiness and they were the glue that kept us together as long as we were. If you know me, you know I am a worker. I have ALWAYS been and always will be. When I founded Salvaged Soul, nearly 5 years ago it filled a void. I found something that was fulfilling in a sense of being valued and appreciated. I built a business that I could pour my heart and soul into that was rewarding emotionally. I have never said any of this out loud or actually ever even thought of it the way I am now but it just keeps coming together more and more.

No, I am not doing this blog post for "attention" or to "explain" myself. I am doing this because I want to share my TRUTH. You don't have to like it or read it or follow me or like me or understand me. Im cool with that. 

Love Always,

Christa

SALVAGED SOUL x TRIBE KELLEY

Salvaged Soul x Tribe Kelley

I like things that are cool without trying, TRIBE KELLEY is cool without trying.

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A brand that truly speaks to my soul. The simplicity is refreshing and easy.

Sexy enough to wear out on date night and cozy enough to wear to bed. LITERALLY.

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I swear my sixth sense is finding brands/businesses with RAD founders.

Brittney + husband Brian Kelley ((of Florida Georgia Line)) founded and designed this line & let's just say they are KILLING IT. There is not one piece to date and I probably have about 15 that I am not 100% in love with. All made in the US with incredible quality too. 

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Click the image to shop my look! <3


Thank you so much to my sissy Kayla Wray for capturing the brand and myself as authentic and amazing as you did. I love you! (( click her name to follow her on Insta)) 

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REBEL RETREAT RECAP || PALM SPRINGS

WELCOME TO THE

SALVAGED SOUL

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Okay, I'm not even going to LIE. If you were not able to make it 

YOU TOTALLY MISSED OUT!
cause we had the BEST. TIME. EVER.

Don't worry though! I'm going to give you the low down right meow + I'm planning the next one as we speak!


Upon arrival we met in the "Presidential Suite" at
the Riviera Resort in Palm Springs for a kick ass hang sesh just getting to know one another before din.

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After all the ladies arrived and connected with one another while sipping champagne, we headed to dinner at the resort!

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We got to be the first to see the new 'Beauty lies within' campaign bags by  
Stacked Collection!

Bang Pop Shop killed it on our desserts, as always!

How bout' that middle finger cookie though?!

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Still obsessing over all the custom calligraphy by the one and only

L Shannon Designs!

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Following dinner we had had our BURN IT workshop poolside by the fire pit. 

This workshop was focused on our fears and what is holding us back. We wrote it down, shared, conquered, and burnt it to the ground!
Business is not always a pretty pictures on Instagram, there are MANY struggles along the way.
I always say failure is what creates success, for everyone. 

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It is ALWAYS a good idea to wake up + BUTI with Lindsay, BUTI Master Trainer + founder of ZEN Soul Studio
no matter how hungover or tired you are 

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BRUNCH + REBEL WORKSHOP
After spending nearly 24 hours with 24 other women who have opened up their hearts + built some REAL friendships as well as business relationships it was incredible to see the growth during such a short time. You feel like you're alone sometimes, like no one would understand what you're going through but THEN you meet women who you can relate with on so many different levels.
It is life changing and beyond inspiring. 
You truly get to come to a place where you INSPIRE other women in business while being INSPIRED yourself.

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And just when you thought it couldn't get any better!!!
These BRAG BAGS were out of this world AMAZING + I am eternally grateful for all the women who contributed!

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BRAG BAG CONTRIBUTORS

Chic Execs | www.chicexecs.com | @chicexecs

Johnny Fly Co. | www.johnnyflyco.com | @johnnyflyco

Ani Michele | www.animichele.com | @animichelenailpolish

Swirl Boutique | www.swirlboutique.com | @swirlboutique

Bang Pop Shop | www.bangpopshop.com | @bangpopshop

Sisters Of Summer | www.shopsistersofsummer.com | @shopsistersofsummer

Amy June Lashes www.amyjunelashes.com | @amyjunelashes

Million Dollar Tan | www.milliondollartan.com | @milliondollartan

My Loves And Things www.perfectlyposh.com/charla/ | @mylovesandthings

NYX Cosmetics | www.nyxcosmetics.com | @nyxcosmetics

The Soul Project | www.soulproject.com | @thesoulproject

San Diego Hat Co. www.sandiegohat.com | @sandiegohatcompany

Stacked Collection | www.thestackedcollection.com | @stackedcollection

ZEN Soul Studio | www.zensoulstudio.com | @zensoulstudio

Wild August | www.wild-august.com | @wildaugust

Power Core | www.powercorestore.ca | @powercorestore

Tammy Taylor Nails | www.professional.tammytaylornails.com | @tammytaylors

REP Active Art | www.repactiveart.com | @repactiveart

Faithful Scents | www.faithfulscents.com | @faithfulscents

Sammi Touw Brows | @sammitouw

Seams Lovely | www.seamslovely.com | @seamslovely

Social Decay | www.socialdecaybk.com | @socialdecaybrand

L Shannon Designswww.lindsayshannon.com | @lshannondesigns

Ixchel Triangle | www.ixcheltriangle.com | @ixcheltriangle

Cleobella | www.cleobella.com | @cleobella


HUGE THANKS
to my girl Sarah with Clique Photography
for capturing this retreat so perfectly! You are truly magic behind the lens <3

+ OUR OTHER SPONSORS

MAKEUP|| SAMMI TOUW - WARDROBE|| STITCH + FEATHER - PR|| CHIC EXECS - BUTI YOGA|| ZEN SOULS STUDIO


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BECAUSE YOU CAN'T DO EPIC SHIT WITH
BASIC PEOPLE || ATTENDEES

 

Christa Paarni | Salvaged Soul/Founder | @salvagedsoul
Karolina Hobson | Chic Execs | @chicexecs
Candi Anderson | Stitch + Feather | @stitchandfeather
Lindsay Hope | ZEN Soul Studio | @zensoulstudio
Crystal Bartos | The Pilates Stretch | @pilates_stretch
Heidi Reyes | Advantage Digital | @advantagedigital + @hidmonster
Natalie Garcia | Chic Designs | @chicnatalie
Tara Freeman | Johny Fly Co. | @johnyflyco
Danielle Sedler |Faithful Scents | @faithfulscents
Kayla Walker | San Diego Brow Bar | @sandiegobrowbarinc
Samantha Touw | Sammi Touw Brows | @sammitouw
Jessica Tickle | Stacked Collection | @stackedcollection
Holly Grim | Canyon Lake Clothing Co. | @clclothingco
Tracey Thompson | Tracey Thompson Designs | @traceythompson
Sarah Dupree | Clique Images | @clique_images
Francis Godoy | Hello Furniture | @hello_furniture
Brooke Pollastro | Bang Pop Shop | @bangpopshop
Lindsay Shannon | L Shannon Designs | @lshannondesigns
Molly Greig | Molly G Handbags | @mollyghandbags
Ashlee Magee | Molly G Handbags | @mollyghandbags
Summer Crawford | Assistant | @summer_crawford_lynch
Dru Bazant | Lashes By Dru | @lashesbydru
Terra Snedeger | NuSkin Team Tori | @terra_snedeger
Alicia Reveles | Alicia Reveles Learning Tree | @a_breveles


STAY TUNED FOR THE NEXT REBEL RETREAT IN OCTOBER DATE RELEASE NEXT WEEK!
HOPE TO SEE YOU THERE! 

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things that make me smile (in style)

things that make me smile


a good simple dress that is casual enough to wear with vans

SADIE STRIPED SHIFT DRESS

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hat|| @alebyalessandra + @swirlboutique

kicks|| @vans

bracelets|| @stackedcollection

necklace|| @jamesmichelle


a body suit that is sexy AF but you can still wear to school pick up 

AMELIA STRAPPY BODYSUIT

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Shorts|| @oneteaspoon + @swirlboutique   

Shorts|| @oneteaspoon + @swirlboutique

 


a dress that ties tight enough to show your side boob but no nip slips

EMBRACE THE PLUNGE LOW BACK SKATER DRESS

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choker|| @neckligebyraquel

earrings|| @pamelahannondesigns + @swirlboutique


SHOP THESE LOOKS AT

WWW.TOBI.COM

|| one of my FAV spots to shop online ||