I have some food for thought and I wanted share with you guys and talk about EXPECTATION. Expectation is a word that should not be taken lightly. I have learned over the years with my own personal relationships, friendships, and myself that expectation will ALWAYS lead to disappointment. Not sometimes, but every single time.
YOU WILL NEVER BE WHO GOD CALLED YOU TO BE IF YOU'RE TRYING TO BE SOMEONE ELSE
Now let me elaborate a bit because I am sure some of you are mistaking the word "expectation" for being self driven or setting goals. No, having an expectation of yourself or someone else is not a healthy way to have a goal or put effort into anything in any way, shape, or form.
Now days, it's so easy to get consumed in social media or constantly compare yourself, your relationships, your children, or even your homes to others. Living a facade with my marriage and our "picture perfect" family photos was an "expectation" I had for myself. I expected myself to work through issues when in fact I should have never been put in that position in the first place.
I'll use our Christmas for instance. Divorce was already out on the table, I knew in my heart we were done, that I would soon face a road where I had never imagined traveling before. But, we put on our happy faces to show the world our beautiful family. I knew everyone was expecting a nice cute family photo, so I made sure it happened. Outside of those picture perfect moments we maybe said 10 words to each other, we did not touch once, we did not even eat dinner together. In the back of my head I expected things to change, I expected someone to be something they never were, ultimately leading to disappointment. I was not being true to myself, I was being true to the expectations of myself.
We cannot live a life expecting ourselves and others do be or do what we "think" they should. God has it all planned out, it's out of our control. Your story has already been written, we are just here to enjoy the ride.
Don't be distracted. Keep your best interest at heart and stay TRUE to you. Don't let reality shows or social media interfere with your happiness. Don't expect people to change. Ever. One of the quotes I read in December that truly was life-changing for me because it was so raw and real was this.
WHEN PEOPLE SHOW YOU WHO THEY ARE, BELIEVE THEM
OPRAH
I know this may seem a little all over the place but it's all a common moral. If everyone would just be true to themselves this world would be a better place.
Love Always,
Christa